Marti Bailey

Brian and I got married right out of college in 1998 and started “trying” to have children three years later. In 2002 Dr. Keenan had to remove both my fallopian tubes because they were blocked. This blockage was due to scar tissue from a surgery I had soon after I was born. What a shock it was to go from trying to have children “naturally” to then being faced with traditional adoption or In Vitro Fertilization. After many years of unsuccessfully going through IVFs then traditional adoption we finally got to where we were supposed to be, embryo adoption. In April of 2008 our dream of having a child finally came true. We were not only blessed with one healthy child but two. They were born at 30 weeks and had to stay in the NICU for 49 days. Julian and Natalie are now 21 months old and are on the go all the time! It was a very long journey to get here, but now we are enjoying our time with our children more than we ever thought possible. God has truly blessed us!

Patty Cassidy

Hi, my name is Patty Cassidy, and I’m happy to be sharing my infertility and open adoption experience with you.

I’ve been married to my husband Jim for almost 20 years, and we have 3 sons, Ryan (13 yrs), Joel (8 yrs) and Chad (4 yrs). We were fortunate to find an infertility doctor who specializes in an infertility treatment known as Intracytoplasmic sperm injection, or ICSI as it is commonly referred to. This was the answer to our prayers, but it took many long years to reach.

I’m excited that Marti and I were asked to participate in this blog, because I think it will help others who are unsure of the next step in their pursuit of a family. It can be scary at times, and although family and friends say they “understand what you are going through”, I don’t think they really do. How could they, unless they have had a similar experience? I know they mean well, but sometimes it isn’t enough.

I can remember when my husband Jim and I first found out we would have to have infertility treatments. He had been diagnosed with testicular cancer, so the infertility issue took a backseat. It wasn’t until a few years after his operations and chemo treatments that we addressed this new wrinkle. We didn’t know a soul who had experienced this, but as I started to talk about it, I found out that many had, only they weren’t open about it.

As we (rather I) underwent treatment, I would often times wish there was somewhere to turn to for guidance and support. Maybe at the time there was, but I never found it. I hope this blog will be that somewhere to turn.

Patty Cassidy