I think Jessica has started the latest Spring fashion trend, and it has nothing to do with clothes!  Tuesday evening in L & D (where I work part time) there wasn’t a speck of white on the dry erase board that lists our patients’ names and status!  The crazy thing about it was that the majority were all pre-termers,  presenting much as Jessica did, stable until your whisking the patient into the OR!. Just to put things in perspective, we had 4 C/S’s in our 8 hour shift!  We started with one wrapping up, did 2, and began another.  That doesn’t account for the few that had vaginal deliveries in between.

Unfortunately, many of these preterm births resulted in  unforeseen complications (3 out of 4), but time will tell how those babies will fare.  Jessica was very fortunate that she had such healthy babies for their gestational age.

As I was driving into work today, I was thinking about the similarities both Jessica and Marti have shared in their experiences.  They both have twins, a boy and girl, that delivered prematurely.  They both were on bed-rest, although Jessica really lucked out on that torture.  I know it sounds like a dream to stay in bed and let others wait on you, but it can be very difficult to stay that inactive for long periods of time.  After about 2 days of it I was done.  What I find most interesting is the fact that they have both gone through the embryo adoption process, and you have two different perspectives to compare.  I think it’s neat to follow Jessica as she presently experiences motherhood (parenthood to include the Dad’s) for the very first time which was  made possible by this process.

Another aspect of this blog that I enjoy is the fact that Marti & I are blogging out our experiences as they relate to adopting/donating embryos.  I really didn’t know what to expect when we chose an open adoption, but it has been better than I ever could have imagined.  Although this decision was made primarily for health concerns in the future for both parties involved, it has evolved into a special bond that I still find to be unbelievable.  We really have only had contact for 2 years, but it seems like the Bailey’s have always been a part of our family.  I eagerly look forward to the years to come.


  1. Patty,
    It has been interesting reading your comments (coming from a donating mother) My husband and I also donated our embryos. (a year after our boy/girl twins were born) we only had 2 left and we also did an open adoption. They now have a little girl “Karissa” who is almost 3 years old. We too feel blessed to have done the open adoption route. The family that we donated to we are also close with them and the mom and I have a wonderful friendship. We too feel like they are part of our family. The mom flew herself and her mom and their baby girl out to meet us 3 months after she was born. and the following year we got to go to Washington DC with the family too for Embryo Donation/Embryo Adoption conference back in May 2008 (thanks to NEDC). Was a wonderful conference and we had such a great time with our recipients. We also were blessed in watching Karissa taking her first steps! Unfortunately we have not been able to see them again since DC, but pray that we will be able to get together again soon. In the meantime, we keep in contact via phone, emails, and Facebook.

    Also one of your comments of how people have felt about you donating your embryos…I have also had the same feelings from others. Some were excited when they heard about us donating our embryos, and to this day are involved in watching her grow up via videos thru Facebook, etc. and also there are others that cannot understand how we could have done such a thing. My husband and I knew that our family was complete and we are so at peace with our decision. Knowing the struggles we dealt with trying to get pregnant, it feels so good to have helped another couple out in having a baby!

    I look forward to reading more of your comments. So far everything you have expressed, I too have the same feelings!
    God Bless!

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