My parents celebrated their 38th wedding anniversary yesterday. In this day in age, it’s refreshing to see a couple not only stay together for the long haul, but still really like each other. I can only imagine how much more complicated our lives would be if they weren’t together. Weddings, birthdays, holidays…all would be very different and I think it’s safe to say that I’d be a different person if they were not still married.
Jeremy and I have been married nearly 7 years and together 11 years today. We didn’t enter into marriage lightly and knew that it was to be a LIFETIME commitment. We went through what I call “pre-marital boot camp” at our church; so if we weren’t sure by the time our wedding day came around, then shame on us! Today, I hear people have wedding vows that say, “until we no longer love.” Seriously? What about “’til death do us part?” Marriages, like many things in life, have seasons that come with storms and other challenges and like Mother Nature—it’s good to have a healthy respect for the marital relationship.
A recent study found that parents who have twins as their first children have a slightly higher divorce rate. The study didn’t indicate exactly why, but I can make some guesses as to why, one being communication. It’s very easy to get completely caught up in all things baby and forget to nurture your relationship with your spouse.
Jeremy and I make sure to have time together each night. We wait to eat dinner together until after the babies go down. We won’t always do this because family dinner time is important, but at this age, we feel we can still get away with waiting. We enjoy that quiet time together to talk about the day or just be together without distractions. We make going to church together a weekend priority and when the weather is nice enjoy time together on family walks. The babies are happy to stroll and he and I get to have time to catch up on the day while we exercise.
If we’ve done our job right, one day Grant and Maria will move out on their own and Jeremy and I will be empty nesters. It’ll be important for us to not be strangers when that happens. I’m grateful for the example that my parents have set for us and pray we all have many more anniversaries to celebrate.