I thought that as they got older the “are they identical?” question would stop. I was wrong. In fact, it seems to have gotten worse recently. We were out on the sidewalk the other day and stopped to talk with our neighbor. We had been talking for no less than 10 minutes when she asked “are they identical?” Seriously, it is hard for me not to laugh. First, what part of penis and vagina are identical? Second, my children do not look at alike. Face shape, coloring, build…it is all different. Sometimes, maybe, at just the right angle, they look similar at best. I recently stifled a laugh when someone said, “They aren’t identical, are they? I can tell because Grant is so dark.” Really, Captain Obvious, the completely different plumbing fact wasn’t your first clue?
Let me set the record straight. Grant and Maria are not identical twins. They are fraternal. They are genetic siblings, no more similar than any other brother and sister who were born at different times. Identical twins occur when one egg and one sperm meet, forming one embryo that splits into two, creating a genetic clone, hence the term “identical.” Fraternal twins occur when two different eggs and two different sperm meet creating two different embryos at the same time.
Identical is defined as:
1. Being the same.
2. Exactly equal and alike.
3. Having such a close similarity or resemblance as to be essentially equal or interchangeable.
4. Biology Of or relating to a twin or twins developed from the same fertilized ovum and having the same genetic makeup and closely similar appearance; monozygotic.
Grant and Maria are not the same. They are not alike. One is not like the other. Now I have the Sesame Street song in my head… “One of these things is not like the other. One of these things is not the same.” Lord, help me. This might drive me crazy.