Grant and Maria’s genetic siblings have been on my heart and mind lately. A friend recently expressed interested in perhaps pursing embryo adoption with the thought of adopting the remaining siblings, however due to some life circumstances have had to put the thought on hold indefinitely. Another person, who is more of an acquaintance, was inquiring about embryo adoption and the process and asked how we picked Grant and Maria. Was it just a personal choice? I said it was more of divine intervention and explained how we had narrowed to eight profiles and decided to pray about it as we went to church that day. During the service I received a very clear vision of the profile we were to choose. Upon leaving church and walking to our car, I told Jeremy that I knew which one we were to pick, to which he replied “the ones with the heart” as he referenced the special consideration profile listed as such because of a sibling born with a ventricular septal defect (VSD). The wisdom of the world would have had us pick the most genetically superior ones, but in reference to 1 Corinthians 1:27 (But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.), we picked the perceived “weak” profile.
If you are familiar with Grant and Maria, you know they are extremely healthy and while Maria did have a VSD, it closed on its own was no consequence on her current and future health. Approximately .1 – .4% of babies are born with a VSD making it the most common congenital heart defects. 80% of muscular VSDs will close on their own and approximately 40% of perimembranous VSDs will close without treatment. There does appear to be some genetic component, but we would have never known about Maria’s if she hadn’t been in the NICU and we weren’t on the lookout for it knowing the sibling history. In fact, when we brought it up to the doctors and nurses as something to look for, none seemed concerned even knowing the history. Hers was so small that it wasn’t easily heard during exams and one nurse joked that it could only be detected if the moon was in the seventh house and the sun was at the right angle and we were standing on one foot. Her VSD closed from the time of diagnosis at three weeks to a follow up appointment at 8 weeks.
What’s my point in all of this? I want someone to adopt their genetic siblings and not to be turned off by their special consideration label. Now, I know there will be mixed emotions if that ever happens – happy for them getting out of the freezer and the possibility of Grant and Maria getting to know their genetic siblings and perhaps a little sad that we aren’t the ones raising them.
The road of embryo adoption doesn’t end upon the first positive pregnancy test. It’s one we’ll be navigating for years to come.