Post Mother’s Day Confession

I have a confession to make.  I don’t like Mother’s Day.  It reminds me too much of those struggling to become a mother and the pain that the day brings when what you want more than anything is strikingly out of reach.  Not to mention those who have absent or strained relationships with their mothers or who have lost a mother.  I hate it when they ask mothers to stand at church and while I reluctantly stand, I feel like I’m only driving the stake deeper into the person sitting near me who desperately wants to stand.  I vividly recall avoiding church the year Grant and Maria were born.  I couldn’t stand the thought of standing up while they were still in the NICU.  I knew I would be an emotional disaster, so I didn’t even go.  While I love and appreciate the necklaces my children made me, I would have been just as appreciative of receiving for a non-mother’s day gift.  Maybe I’m just a Mother’s Day scrooge.
I found this touching post and it helped me feel better because it honored those in the many different mothering stages or relationships.  Perhaps I’m not alone on my feelings towards Mother’s Day
The Broad Spectrum of Motherhood
By Amy Young

To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you

To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you

To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you

To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you

To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.

To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you

To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you

To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you

To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you

To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience

To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst

To those who have aborted children – we remember them and you on this day

To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be

To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths

To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you

To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you

To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart

And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you

This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.

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